Online Dating Tips

So you’ve taken the plunge to do on-line dating, against the advice of most of your friends.  You’ve heard the horror stories, yet you hope she is “out there”, somewhere, and hey, how will she ever find you if you don’t advertise?  Unless she is at the grocery store, gym, your favorite sport bar, or related to your work (always the wrong answer!), chances are you will never meet her.

Now that you’ve decided to be on-line, here are some tips to help you get the most out of your experience:

1. Make some effort!  Create a realistic, 3 or 4 paragraph profile that specifically describes you and what you are looking for.  If you are having difficulty, ask a close friend or family member to help.  If you aren’t specific about what you want, you won’t get it.  After you complete the “little about myself” summary, be sure to answer all the questions, especially your hobbies and where you like to go and what you enjoy doing.  Be as specific as you can, and be sure your personality shows through and add some humor.  Women love a guy that can make them laugh.

2. Photos are the key to getting you noticed.  Again, you have made the decision to advertise your availability online, so show some great photos that make you look your best.  Make sure the photos are clear and a good mix of head shots and full length photos.   Please don’t post photos from your senior prom 20 years ago.  Current photos only.

3. When women make contact, the proper response is to send them a note.  If they “wink”, then don’t merely return their “wink”.  That sends the message that you want the woman to do all the work.  If she winks, and you find her pictures and profile attractive, send her a short e-mail referring to her profile and asking a specific open-ended question that merits a response.  What ever you do, don’t create a general “little about myself/you have a great (smile, eyes, legs, whatever)” e-mail to the 50 most attractive women in your zip code. Women see right through these "form" letters.  

4. When you are ready to talk on the phone, don’t ask her for her number, send her yours.  Women are safety minded when they are dating on-line, and don’t like to give out their numbers randomly.  If she is a quality girl, she’ll appreciate the courtesy.

5. If the call(s) go well, your first meeting should be at a public place and should be no longer than an hour.  The local coffee shop is always a good choice, as it is relaxed, comfortable, and full of great aromas of coffee and pastries.  Offer to buy her coffee or whatever she would like to drink or eat.  By the way, yes, initially, the man always pays. 

These tips will help you get the most out of your on-line dating experience.  Keep in mind that this is a process, and you will probably meet 1 in 10 that are what you are looking for.  Take heart, knowing she is out there, and manage your expectations accordingly.  If nothing else, it is a great study of humanity and the science of attraction.  You may make a good business contact or friend, even if nothing romantic works out.  Relax and enjoy!

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